How to live your dreams as a parent?

“The first step to living a life of passion and purpose is to remove the barriers that hold you back”. ~ Adam Baker (manvsdebt)

A close friend asked me to write about ‘Livin’ out your dreams or not, as a parent’. I concurred that this would be a great subject.  My only reservation is due to my lack of credibility in this area.  I don’t have the responsibilities that come with marriage, child and a mortgage.  Hearing this information from me would be equivilant to having an overweight personal trainer give you health tips.  Therefore I have enlisted the assistance of some families who are living their dreams.

Courtney & Adam Baker (manvsdebt) had only been married a year, but had managed to collect two car loans, several credit cards, a line of credit (jewelry store), a loan from their parents, and enough student loans to take down an elephant.  At Their peak, they had amassed over $80,000 in non-mortgage debt.

After the birth of their daughter, Milligan, they knew things had to change.  They made a commitment to achieving true freedom and living a debt-free life.  They decided to halt their current course.  Their solution included aggressively cleaning up their debt, selling their crap and spending a year in Australia.

They experienced their share of setbacks and stumbling blocks, but they were able to abolish $18 000 of non-student loan debt.  They saved $17 000 for their trip.  All of this within a year and while they still have a ways to go, they’re headed in the correct direction.  They now are on their way to financial freedom and still travel regularly.  Check out their website, great information and experiences (link is above).

Julie & Marc (Four Hour Work Week) embarked on a 15-month exploration of the globe by boat, from the gondola-rich waterways of Venice to the tribal shores of Polynesia, had cost between $18 000 and $19 000.  Less than rent and baguettes in Paris.

Most people would consider this impossible.  Then again, most people don’t know that more than 300 families set sail from France each year to do the same.  The trip had been a dream for almost two decades, relegated to the back of the line behind an ever-growing list of responsibilities.  Each passing moment brought a new list of reasons for putting it off.

One day, Julie realized that if she didn’t do it now, she would never do it.  The rationalizations, legitimate or not, would just continue to add up and make it harder to convince herself that escape was possible.

One year of preparation and one 30-day trial run with her husband later, they set sail on the trip of a lifetime. 

More over, Julie and Marc brought their three children along who fought frequently pre-trip.  In the process of learning to coexist in a floating bedroom, they learned patience.  Pre-trip books were as appealing as eating sand, faced with the alternative of staring at a wall or the open sea, all three boys learned to love books.  Pulling them out of school for one academic year and exposing them to new environments had proven to be the best investment in their education to date.

In conclusion, living your dreams whether single or married consists of many things, but primarily:

1)  a paradigm shift, the mindset of the individual(s) must be uniform in a marriage.  If single, you must be completely dedicated to your goal and be undetered by obstacles.

2)  a plan of attack must be formulated.  Dashing headlong haphazardly isn’t the greatest idea.  Plan.  Plan.  Plan.

3)  Ignore everyone.  Most people are distractors and envy is the reason they knock your dreams.  IF these people do not offer positive feedback to accompany their criticism, I would take their opinion with a grain of salt.

Good luck finding your muse and continue to grow.  Here’s another example:


2 thoughts on “How to live your dreams as a parent?

  1. This is my biggest concern in having children but I know I can still live the life I want to AND have kids. It will just have to be a very conscious decision.

  2. My “four-hour-work-week” was “Retire at 55.” My husband and I planned for it. I was able to go out a few years earlier, but now we are living our dream. I agree with your #2. Plan, plan, plan, and anything is possible.

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